One question I am often asked my self, if you are in relationship, is it okay to have an opposite-sex friend, or is it considered cheating? My general response is, it depends! Opposite-sex friendships seem to a great deal of conflicts in normal life.
It's great to be social and to want to have friends; especially with those people you have established a solid friendship with over the years. However, you can go too far, and cross the line when it comes to having relationships with others, and sometimes it does turn into a type of affair, even if there is no sexual contact involved.
Are you in love or infatuated with your friend? Sometimes you might find yourself infatuated with your friend, especially at the beginning or if you don't see them too often. It is easy to fall into this trap, because you don't share responsibilities with your friend as you do with your gal friend or with your guy.
Logically, men and women should be able to be friends, but it can become complicated if there are unexpected feelings or attractions that develop. It is important to check your own reactions. If the friendship is interfering with your relation, talk about it with your friends and try to correct the situation.
When you begin to share intimate or hurtful details of your relationship with one particular friend of the opposite sex, you are in the beginning stages of an emotional affair. Every relationship has ups and downs, but by relaying personal information on your significant other you are also betraying his or her trust.
Emotional affairs can be especially harmful to new relationships. When you've first started dating, things are tentative and unsure, and can be easily derailed with misunderstandings. Asking a potential partner to accept an inappropriate friendship is a sure-fire way to end your new relationship before it even starts.
If you are having an emotional affair with the opposite sex, ask yourself why you want to continue. Are you afraid of a real relationship, and therefore are hesitant to end this emotional affair? Having a friend to fantasize about can be a crutch to hold you back from developing a healthy relationship.
Often an emotional affair is called "Chase Infidelity", because what's happening is that you are starting a lovely emotional relationship with a person with the opposite sex where you're sharing your dreams and you're telling each other those secrets about your relationship. Maybe you're complaining to each other, maybe you are discovering new things about each other and with each other, and suddenly you're starting to think of this person a lot.
The problem is, you're taking all that energy that could make your relationship grow if only you gave it to your partner in the same intensity. Instead you're giving it to someone else and in a way contributing to the sinking of your relationship.
Is having an emotional affair really cheating?
Does it involve deception, intimacy and chemistry? Those are the three signs that you are having an affair. So, deception; this interaction that you are having with this person, are you going home and telling your partner about it? Are you sharing what you've shared? Is your partner invited along? If not; if the opposite is happening, if you're meeting and you're not telling your partner, and you're spending more and more time together and you're saying you're somewhere else, then you're engaging in deception. Okay, what about intimacy? Are you telling each other more and more and more about yourselves and finding out about each other? Are you like these little secret friends? If so, and you're building this intimacy, this emotional intimacy, the problem is that I doubt that you are repeating this at home. What you're giving to your new friend, chances are you're not giving back to your home partner. That's another sign that you are having an affair. The third part of it is chemistry. Whether you are having sex or not, there's often this chemistry that's happening.
Note* Bumble Bee don’t take it personally it not written on you it universal topic and people are into emotional affair! I fully trust you and more over you never hide any thing from me which is the best part in our relation. But I want to say your so called SIR ( Tanker ) is hitting on you. When it's a friendship, we let our friends see us as we are. When it's crossed the line into an emotional affair, we try to impress them and only let them see us looking good, smelling good, and at our witty best.That what he is doing!
If you are honest with yourself and answer these questions and realize you may be crossing the line into an emotional affair--IT'S NOT TOO LATE! You can choose to stop and rebuild the love in your relationship. To relight the flame of love.
Aditi you never kept any secrets, you always tell when ever you saw ur crush, you merrily told me once he was checking you out that point I used to get pissed off but end of day its nice feeling. About kshitig…..you kept his sms so that I can delete my self hahah joke! You are sweet heart I love you and cant live without you
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